Okay, that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but it’s close enough.
Today I thought I’d give you guys an update on how I’m going with being distracted versus being present, and friends, I’m pleased as punch to be able to tell you all that it is going well. Really well. (Cue my awkward-looking happy dance.)
Honestly, when I think about last year, it still kind of saddens me to think of how attached I was to my phone. I never let it out of my sight. I always knew exactly where it was. It was always buzzing. I was always checking it. I would only ever half-listen to my boys because I was too distracted with all the incoming notifications and messages from the online world. Even at dinnertime, I would often disappear from the room to check my phone. Quite frankly, I resented myself for being like that and yet I couldn’t seem to stop being like that.
That was until I made all the drastic changes and adopted all the steps that I outlined in my previous post. My, how they’ve made a difference! Such a difference.
This isn’t to say that I haven’t stumbled along the way, because there’s no doubt that I have. My ‘online cravings’ have been very real, and I’ve definitely given in to them from time to time.
But this side of two months – I’ve actually managed to rewire that bit of my brain. Which was my goal from the very start.
It was never about how often I checked Facebook or Instagram during the day – it was about rewiring my brain so that I would be better at being present with my family rather than checking in on the online world. It was about teaching myself that I didn’t need to be validated by incoming likes and comments.
Both of these things I think I have achieved – to my amazement and my delight.
I am much, much less connected to the online world and I care very little for my phone these days. Often I don’t even know where it is, and Rick has to actually ring it for me to track it down. As a result, I’ve been present with the boys. I’ve been present during dinnertimes. I’ve been present during reading times. I’ve been present during bathtimes. I’ve been present during bedtimes.
And it has been so, so good.
So good for my mental health, and so good for the family.
Plus, there’s been the added bonus of being able to focus better when I’m working. Honestly, without the constant desire to browse Facebook and without the constant need to check all incoming notifications, I have procrastinated less and focused more.
Talk about killing two (or three) birds with the one stone.
Obviously, the one big trade off has been that I’ve been much less connected with all of you here in the online world. I haven’t been visiting many of your blogs, and I haven’t been commenting much on your blog posts or your Instagram photos. I’m very conscious of this and I do feel sad about it, but I’m also confident that every single one of you understands why I’ve needed to makeover this area of my life.
In time, I hope to regain some sort of a ‘healthy’ balance.
For now, I am simply happy that I am a person who knows how to be present.
You can read about my entire makeover series here.
ps. For those of you who said you were going to give this a go, how are you finding it?