Wherein I interview myself

Tell us a bit about your family…

I was born on the little island of Hong Kong. We moved to Sydney when I was four – which was, let’s just say, a very long time ago. My parents were worried China would take over the world and decided Australia would be safer from the evil clutches of communism. Being Chinese drives me mad at times (this is one example), but I wouldn’t have it any other way. My parents both had a heck of a tough childhood living on the poverty line in Hong Kong. My mum, for example, was one of ten children and at one point in time, they were all living in one small attic. One day I will write a book about my parents – for my sake, for their sake, and for my children’s sake. One day.

I am married to a wonderful, gorgeous man. His name is Rick (I sometimes call him Ricky, but he hates that) and we are the best of friends. We like to read books and drink coffee together. He is true blue Aussie and he has a beard that sometimes gets a little bit too long (usually when I forget to point it out to him). He used to ride a motorbike but he sold it about five years ago. And no, I didn’t make him, he gave it up for me. Now that’s true love.

I have been pregnant six times, carried five babies to full-term, delivered five boys, and brought four of them home.

Cameron, our first, died in utero at 41 weeks in September 2007. We grieved madly, we still do, and we always will. We miss the little guy like crazy. Ten days after Cameron died, I started pouring out my grief through words as my way of coping, and I started Life without Cameron as my way of sharing our grief with the world. Since then, I have turned my writings into a manuscript and am currently seeking a way to get it published. More about that later.

Thirteen months after Cameron, we had Angus, and sixteen months later, we also had Pete. Thirteen months after Pete, we welcomed another little boy James into our family. And in April last year, Edward entered our lives.

Despite the hard work, the exhaustion, and the tears, I would not swap motherhood – with all its ups and downs – for anything else in the world.

In addition to losing Cameron, we had a miscarriage between Angus and Pete. We named that little life Thomas – or Tiny Tom as we like to call him.

Since getting married nine years ago, we have moved five times which has been all sorts of fun. We now live in a leafy suburb in the northern beaches where there are many lizards. I do not like lizards.

We have no pets, though Rick (desperately) wants a dog. I am yet to be convinced.

What are some random things that we should know?

I am a Christian. What does that mean? Read this.

I am a bit of a technology junkie. I blame my dad – he gave me my own DOS when I was only nine. Yes, pen and paper are great, but even better is an iPhone synced with an iPad synced with a Mac equipped with Things, Evernote, SugarSync, Jumsoft Money, 1Password, Scrivener, WriteRoom, and Simplenote.

Clearly, I am a big fan of Apple. And while I usually try not to impose my likes and preferences upon other people, one cannot deny that Apple makes great products. That is an objective fact. Oh, and Macs are better than PCs. Another objective fact. End of story. Nighty night.

I am a neat freak. I like things to be organised. No, wait. I need things to be organised. My friends think I have OCD. But in reality, it’s just a neat (pun intended) way to live and function. I have to admit that Rick did suffer a certain degree of shock after we got married but he has since accepted me for who I am and he loves the fact that our house has order not chaos. He even invited me to his office earlier this year to help him set up all his admin/filing from the ground up. The day he asked me, I was reminded of what a great man I had married.

I recently discovered all things retro. Well, not all things. Primarily house and decor items. Inspired by a stack of Belle magazines at the holiday house we rented last Summer, I went on to decorate our current residence with a somewhat retro look with the help of eBay, Etsy and – would you believe it – even IKEA. The great thing is that because everything is already dated, it can’t actually date. That’s a woman’s logic for you.

Naturally, I support the Stillbirth Foundation of Australia, and would ask that you consider doing so too – or a similar organisation in your country.

I like writing. I am by no means a professionally paid writer, but if the definition of a writer is someone who writes (and loves the process of doing so), then I would call myself a writer. Plus, it sounds very cool.

Which is a great segue to the next section…

Why do I want to publish my book about Cameron?

Stillbirth is sadly a taboo topic in our society today. People often don’t want to talk about it because the idea of stillbirth is just so terrible. And it is terrible. Yet it is so common. In Australia alone, about 2000 babies are stillborn every year. As a community, we really need to start being willing and able to talk about stillbirth because there are many mothers out there who have lost children in utero.

We also need to start learning how to respond to another’s grief and pain. Saying nothing is no good but saying something downright insensitive will only cause someone extra pain. When Cameron died, people said all sorts of bizarre things to us – from “Think positive and be strong!” to “It doesn’t matter, you’ll have other children.” I can still remember entire nights when I couldn’t sleep because I was so hurt, and the resentment and bitterness that constantly ate at me was more than I could bear at times – and that was on top of my grief at losing Cameron.

The book is a glimpse into our journey after losing Cameron – it is a glimpse of our pain, our tears, our heartache, our anger, our emptiness, our devastation. It is a glimpse of what a mother suffers when she loses her child.

It is my hope that this book will raise much needed awareness about stillbirth and will help us all to better care for those women around us who have suffered a similar tragedy.

If you are in the publishing industry and would like to review the manuscript (or know someone who might be interested), please contact me. I would love to hear from you!

So tell me about your blog!

I started blogging early in 2002, on a whimsical suggestion by a friend. In those days, I had a tendency to muse about love, relationships, and what I perceived to be irony in the lives of those around me. I have taken some of those posts down, for the sake of confidentiality.

Not the most diligent of bloggers, huge gaps developed in my blog after Rick and I got married (so consumed I must’ve been with marital bliss!), and then after we lost Cameron, my only inclination was to write about Cameron.

In 2011, I began writing and blogging about our family life – my motto was to muse about ‘my life, my loves and my laughs.’

These days, I share posts about memory keeping, photography, family life, learning contentment, and making over my life.

Want to get in touch?

If you have any questions, feedback, ideas or suggestions for the blog, you can send an email to hello@pinkronnie or a direct message through Twitter.

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Angel @ | 77inspire | April 22, 2011 at 5:42 am

thanks you for sharing your story.

Stumbled across your blog and i think it’s lovely. Congrats on your two beautiful boys.

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Pink Ronnie May 17, 2011 at 6:36 pm

Thx Angel! Love your blog too!

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kristina@beancakes June 7, 2011 at 11:54 pm

thank you for sharing your riveting and profound story. it sounds like you have been through a lot in life ~ which i think is a beautiful thing ~ from that ~ much strength and wisdom is acquired. on a light note: macs are better than pc’s. period.
~xo: kristina
http://beancakes.wordpress.com/

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Pink Ronnie June 9, 2011 at 11:15 pm

Thanks for reading Kristina. xo

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Jacinta June 10, 2011 at 11:47 am

Your blog is gorgeous … love the design, your photographs are amazing and certainly tell a story :)

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Pink Ronnie June 18, 2011 at 11:04 pm

Thanks Jacinta!

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emily @ The Beetle Shack June 30, 2011 at 2:04 pm

well hello,

for the sake of transparency im just gonna get this out there. I’m pretty sure after reading all of this that I am indeed crushing on you. What an amazing story you have. I am so glad you came to visit my place so i could in turn visit yours.

im off to stalk your archives.

xo em

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Pink Ronnie July 1, 2011 at 9:22 pm

Oh wow, blush, thanks Em for your kind words! Loving your blog too!
Ronnie xo

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Charlotte July 27, 2011 at 1:09 pm

It’s so wonderful to find another Christian in the blogosphere! Thank you for sharing your story, and for being so open about Cameron. Like you said, it’s a very taboo topic, partially because people don’t know what to say. It’s wonderful to see you be open with it, hopefully starting a conversation that will trickle to others. So glad I found your blog!

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Pink Ronnie August 2, 2011 at 3:59 pm

Charlotte, thanks for your beautiful words. It’s always so touching to have someone understand.
Ronnie xo

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Anthony Linton September 22, 2011 at 11:45 pm

Hi Rhonda,
I stumbled across your blog after reading about the recent ball on Kitty’s facebook.
After all these years of seeing and speaking to you at random dinners, weddings and parties, I had no idea that you wrote so beautifully.
Your touching words, and the depth of emotion that you can convey is astounding. You MUST publish one day. You are a true inspiration.
Sara and I must pass on our congratulations about young James. He is extremely cute and we are very happy for both you and Rick.
Looking forward to seeing you again very soon
Anthony

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Pink Ronnie November 19, 2011 at 9:44 pm

Hi Anthony,
Wow, thanks so much for stopping by and reading, and thank you for your amazing words of encouragement. Hope you and your family are well too!
Rhonda

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vitaminA November 19, 2011 at 8:55 am

Came across your blog through Sweet Fine Day (comment section)! I love you! Your story is amazing and inspiring. Your honesty is refreshing, beautiful photos and gorgeous family. I’m enjoying seeing life through your eyes here on your blog. I’m a mama myself to a 5mth old boy and I too wouldn’t trade it for anything! Challenging but worth every second. Thanks for sharing your life…

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Pink Ronnie November 19, 2011 at 9:46 pm

Hi,
Thanks so much for visiting and for taking the time to read what I’ve written. Thanks for your kind words as well. I’ve had a peek at your blog, and it’s just lovely! Look forward to seeing more of it.
Ronnie xo

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Cecilia November 20, 2011 at 9:55 am

Hi- I hopped over to your blog via a comment you made on mine. (Thanks!) I think we are both sweetfineday readers. I adore your blog and loved this self interview. You seem like a strong, passionate woman, and your family seems filled with love. I’m so glad we’ve met out here in blog land.

I hope you’re having a wonderful weekend.

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Pink Ronnie November 26, 2011 at 4:32 pm

Thanks so much for visiting and for taking the time to read my very long rant. I’m glad I found your blog too!
Ronnie xo

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Jen June 13, 2012 at 4:02 am

Hi Ronnie, thanks for visiting my blog and finding me through Sweet Fine Day. It’s pretty amusing because it looks like there’s several Sweet Fine Day folks here. Never a bad thing making connections through great blogs. I love your candidness in speaking about your family. And I can definitely relate in some ways to your roots: I was born in South Korea and immigrated to America when I was six. My mom too grew up in extreme poverty – 7 people to one room. I too have plans to write about my mom’s interesting history one day (of course, she’d be horrified) – I just have to keep Anne Lamott’s mantra in my head: “Butt in chair.” Pleasure to meet you, Jen.

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Pink Ronnie June 16, 2012 at 10:29 am

Wow, our mums’s stories sure sound similar. Let’s write their memoirs together. :)
Ronnie xo

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Alexandra June 24, 2012 at 4:59 am

Hi Ronnie!!
Just finished reading about you… so great to learn more about you.
You once mentioned that you thought we had a lot in common – I think you’re right!!
Interesting to note that my Dad is the youngest of 16, my mother was/is anglican (my father converted from Lutheran to Anglican to marry her – my husband is Catholic – I’m a mixed bag of several religions – can’t quite claim one entirely as my own – not sure that I want to).
I followed an educational path set out for me by my parents when what I really wanted to be was in interior designer. Now I’m a stay-at-home Mom ready to start out on my own, fulfilling journey.
I could go on but I’ll leave you with that for now.
However, one last interesting tid-bid… my brother (Mike Maves) is business partners with the Aussie golfer Steve Elkington – their company is called “Secret In The Dirt”. Kinda fun : )
Those are just a few things that struck me right away.
Hope this finds you well.
Hugs,
A.
xo

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Pink Ronnie June 26, 2012 at 10:32 pm

Hey Alexandra,
So touched you took the time to read this. Thanks for sharing all those cool facts about yourself. I’m so glad we met in the bloggy world.
Ronnie xo

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Katherine Ross June 25, 2012 at 1:17 am

What a lovely blog you have, Ronnie! This was such a wonderful “about” section and I look forward to following along and reading more of your stories :)

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Pink Ronnie June 26, 2012 at 10:28 pm

Thanks Katherine – I’m so touched that you came by my blog and that you took the time to read this. I’m also looking forward to following along with your blog.
Ronnie xo

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Maya @ House Nerd February 12, 2013 at 9:00 am

Hi Ronnie, I came to your blog through the lovely comment you left on House Nerd, and am so happy I found your lovely blog. You write beautifully (now I feel a bit weepy after reading your story) and your posts are so thoughtful, such a gorgeous family you have and such a beautiful blog. Love your focus on memory keeping, something I have vowed this year to make more time for in our busy modern world. Bookmarked and looking forward to reading much more x Maya

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Pink Ronnie February 12, 2013 at 9:58 am

Hi Maya,
That is the sweetest comment. Thank you so much for stopping by and for taking the time to leave such kind words. Your blog is just lovely, and I really did enjoy your feature on The Beetle Shack!
Ronnie xo

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Cyranoscrap February 15, 2013 at 6:48 pm

Hi Ronnie,
I came across your blog via a FB post from Becky Higgins. It’s so rare to read so much reality on an “About” page on a blog. I know I personally don’t share much on my public blog, so I just wanted to say “thank you” for inviting readers into your life and sharing the good and the bad. You certainly have a way with words, and I will definitely be adding your blog to one of my faves to peruse. You are already a writer, not an aspiring one! :)

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Pink Ronnie February 15, 2013 at 11:31 pm

Thank you for such words of encouragement – it was so lovely to wake up this morning and read this. Thank you so much for visiting and for taking the time to read.
Ronnie xo

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Kirsty April 9, 2013 at 9:49 am

Ronnie,
All my love and best wishes for the next week. I haven’t been able to comment on your recent post and for some reason I lose your comments on disqus over at my place. Thank you for all you lovely words here and over there.
Kirsty xx

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Sarah June 6, 2013 at 12:27 pm

Hi – I have just discovered your blog and I love it.

I love the technology apps you mention – and am working through them to see what I’ll get – so far I have put Things on my Ipad – what a revelation and I am looking at Scrivner too. I love your honesty about the beautiful and the sad things in your life. Sarah

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Pink Ronnie July 27, 2013 at 9:59 pm

Hi Sarah,
Thanks for stopping by and for leaving such a lovely message.
Ronnie xo
p.s. I need to revise that list of apps above. I no longer use Bento, Delicious Library or JustNotes. I DO use Simplenote a lot, which is awesome.

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Lou June 27, 2013 at 7:28 am

Hi Ronnie,

I just foudn your blog through Che and Fidel’s blog. It seems crazy that bloggin has been around for 10 years! Yours is a beautiful blog and I look forward to reading more!

Lou :)

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Pink Ronnie July 27, 2013 at 10:13 pm

Thank you Lou for your kind words!
Ronnie xo

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Jessica July 27, 2013 at 4:04 pm

Hi Ronnie! Oh how I loved meeting you through your “About me” section! I love how real and true you are to yourself, and I look forward to getting to know you better through your blog posts! I can’t wait to find some time to go through your past entries and will continue to follow! Love your beautiful site and photography! Xo Jessica

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Pink Ronnie July 27, 2013 at 10:14 pm

Hi Jessica,
Thanks so much for stopping by and for your wonderful words. It’s lovely to have you here.
ronnie xo

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Olivia August 2, 2013 at 1:28 pm

Firstly Ronnie, a big squeeze, from one mum to the next. The sadness in your words is evident. Raw and honest. A mother’s love.
I wrote about my loss here not long ago http://themagicandthemundane.blogspot.com.au/2013/06/birth-death-miscarriage.html
I look forward to following your journey, i think we have a bit in common: As soon as I saw your latest pics I knew your kids were of mixed background, mine too. My kids are 1/4 Japanese 3/4 Aussie, I am a Christian, I have 4 kids (3 boys, 1 girl) and one in heaven, I live in Sydney….and the list goes on.
Glad i stopped by.
Have a fabulous weekend
Liv x

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Emily August 15, 2013 at 4:44 pm

Hi Ronnie! I have recently started following you blog and love what your doing! I’m so impressed at the open honesty you give to each blog post. I recently was living and working in Papua New Guinea for a christian non profit City Mission PNG for the past 2 years. But now I’m back in the United States working for another christian non profit called Asian Hope. Our focus is to protect, educate and empower at risk children in Cambodia. I love the influence of your faith has in your life, your children and your blog. We have started a small jewelry collection called Coin Charms for Kids. The collection revolves around handcrafted bracelets and authentic Cambodian coins that are no longer in circulation. Take a look at the new featured ‘Full Circle’ leather wrap bracelet. http://www.asianhope.org/category-coin-charms

I hope to stay in touch with you through your blog and email if possible! God bless and keep up the amazing work!

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Alvin August 21, 2013 at 8:53 pm

Just passed by your website and loved reading your about section although I haven’t go through the rest of your website.

Keep up the great work you are doing!

God bless you and your family,

Alvin

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Yuliya January 14, 2014 at 11:15 pm

Hi Ronnie,

Last year I wanted to do a workshop with you, however I was not able to do so. Could you please let me know if you have any dates for this year,

I am looking forward to hearing from you soon,

Thank you,

Yuliya

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Pink Ronnie January 14, 2014 at 11:34 pm

Hi Yuliya,

So lovely to hear from you! Yes, we are holding a workshop on Friday, 30 May 2014.

We’ve actually sent you two emails about it. Did they not come through? (I’ve checked your email address and it is the correct one.) I wonder whether it went into your junk folder – could you have a look?

Otherwise, just email us at hello@lifecapturedworkshop.com and we can send you through the payment details?

Thanks,
Ronnie xo

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Lisa January 22, 2014 at 12:54 am

Hey there,

Found your blog while looking for Project Life inspiration. Love your blog, love your spreads and decided to read a bit more. Your post about making your life over resonated with me – that’s where I’m at now too. I need to make a change…

I clicked on your about me and found out about Cameron. I lost my first son at full term when he was three days old. He was a gorgeous and much loved little boy. I haven’t had any other children as yet, but it is something I desperately want now, nearly two years later.

Plan to follow your blog. Thanks for sharing!

Lisa

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Pink Ronnie January 22, 2014 at 9:19 am

Hello Lisa,
Thank you for your kind words. I had a read of your blog, especially Finley’s story. So heartbroken for you. I feel your pain, my friend. I really do….
Love,
Ronnie xo

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Lisa January 22, 2014 at 8:51 pm

Not a place I ever really thought I’d be, and yet here I am somehow. Thanks for stopping by my little corner of the big wide web x

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I love hearing from you!

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